It All Begins Here

I've been shuffling around procrastinating trying to figure out what my first blog will be about. I admit, this isn't as easy as I thought it would be. There is a lot of pressure to make a grand entrance or something spectacular or morbid in order to grab and keep your attention. I could introduce myself and tell you a little about me ...but who am I to you right? I haven't had multiple surgeries to make sure I look perfect for my readers or followers and I haven't risked my life to take some fantastic picture for a few likes. To tell the truth...I don't care if you like me. I wasn't put on this world to be liked by everyone. I am loved by my family and close circle of friends. Do I really need any more? There is this ideal in todays world that you are somehow successful by how many followers you have on social media...or by how much money you have in the bank. While one has some truth to it (the money), the other is an illusion. One day this blog may have one million followers. If I am able to touch that many people I feel that I would have made my mark in this world. That is not the reason that I decided to do a blog. The main reason I am doing this is simple...my children.

My previous profession was an Asset Protection (AP) Manager for a top retail company. This type of job requires you to look at social and employee behaviors and investigate whether those behaviors are causing the company to lose money. Each individual manager is stationed at a store with the soul purpose of preventing asset losses to the company. An Asset Protection Manager is required to pay close attention to detail and to remain non-biased to protect the liability of the store. In this particular position we sometimes cause people to have a terrible day by having to have the police involved in the detainment and transportation to a correctional facility. Believe it or not, people from all walks of life are guilty of shoplifting. It is not just poor people who steal. Although sometimes the reasons why some of the people steal are completely understandable, It does not make it right. I retired from Asset Protection because the pay does not jive with the amount of work, responsibility, and stress that comes along with the position. Not to mention the Asset Protection Department started weakening the abilities of their AP agents in order to protect themselves from liability. Now-a-days AP has to worry about being on camera while detaining and arresting a subject. The general public seems to put AP in the same category as the police. We are judged by those same standards because we have the ability to temporarily take someone's freedom away. I honestly think the industry needs to take another look on the importance and training of the AP Department. It is key to retail structure. At this moment reader I would like to apologize. You have just been given a first hand look at one of my biggest struggles. Staying on task. I was getting completely off the subject and you were going to let me. ANYWAYS...my children.

I decided to do this blog because I have been getting more into the political issues that have been lingering around in the American atmosphere. Having children, and seeing how the decisions we make now will effect our children, forces me as a parent to get involved. Some of the things that have happened and are happening angers me to the core. I'LL BE DAMNED if some over-zealous, attention-seeking idiot I don't even know has more right to decide what my daughter does with her body than she, her mother, or I. The audacity to think that in a "free" world, a group of people can decide whether or not a woman has to give birth to a child. They are not asking the important question. Is this person ready to be a parent? Does this person want to be a parent? Does this person need to be a parent? Just because a person desires sex does not mean they desire the repercussion of that union. That is our freedom. Whether or not you think that person is going to burn in the realms of hell is your opinion and your business. What you do privately should be respected as that...private.  Question for the Forum #1: Does the Government or State getting involved with abortions violate our own HIPPA laws? 

Being a parent isn't for the weak and not everyone should be one. If a woman decides to abort a pregnancy, that is a private and personal affair and should be that persons choice. The flip side of that situation is the one that hits the closest. If my daughter or someone I care about deeply has sex forced upon them. I want justice. If their is a child involved and the woman is forced to have that child out of that forced union, why are we compounding the trauma by applying more force to that victim by forcing them to have that child. I can only speak from assumption, but what are the chances of that woman having unconditional love for that child? What prevents that child from being in danger from the mother in case of post-partum or just spite because she has to re-live the forced sex every time she looks at that child. Forum Question #2: Here's another one for you...If that woman dies in child-birth from the forced sex situation, is the subject who forced the sex going to be held for manslaughter...or murder...or at least held liable for the death? By law, if a death occurs during the result of a crime then it is considered First Degree Murder. I would think that would include if a woman dies giving birth to a child she is now forced to have. I would put that in the category of torture and cruel and unusual punishment. The woman is being tortured for nine months and finally forced to go through what is suppose to be a loving pain to give birth to an unwarranted child. Then, that woman is forced to nurture and care for that child, giving more of herself to this child that reminds her of one of the worst days of her life. Some women have the capability of separating their feeling from the child from the event that brought the child here. Not all can. Forcing the ones who don't have the ability to separate the feeling shouldn't be more punishment on them. There should be a way to reclaim your own life back. For some, that means permanently terminating that connection with the trauma.

With that said I must say this, I have never been forcibly sexually assaulted nor will I ever be a woman. I can not possibly know the psychological and/or physical stress that goes along with being a victim of sexual assault, pregnancy, or child-birth. I can not possibly know how one woman from the next will handle a traumatic situation as the subject matter on hand. I am not the one who has to deal with the decision nor can I judge any person who makes that decision. Do I agree with the idea of abortion? No I do not, but I will never have to make that decision. I don't have to deal with another person's demons. Therefore, I feel I have no right to force my opinion on their decisions nor do I have the right to take away their choice. What is freedom if they take away your right to chose? Or would you rather continue living with the illusion of choice? Think about it.

Alonzo V(5)